Rather than being happy in our own skin in this moment, we are constantly seeking pleasure in some form. This may be validation for us to be recognised as an individual.
It may be seeking instant gratification. It may be seeking drama so that again, you can be seen and noticed. Even if it is for the wrong reasons.
You may seek an affair to feel passion again, gratification and validation all in one package.
But seeking these little moments of pleasure is just your desperation to escape reality and the need to do a bit of hard work on yourself and your life.
You can run away but whenever you do this, the problems will always follow you. You are not solving anything. You are just moving your problems sideways.
When you can stand in the mirror and understand that you are the cause of all your problems in your life.
You can start to take responsibility for your actions and non-actions. You can see that rather than face yourself in the mirror, you would rather seek distraction.
Rather than having a tough conversation with yourself and stop running. To be still and listen to all your thoughts in your head. For it is when you stop and face you fears.
Embrace your fears that you can start living a different life. One where you don't run around causing collateral damage due to your lack of awareness of how you are acting and being.
For example, you may consider an affair with someone in the office perhaps. You are married with kids.
They are married with kids. Rather than stopping for a second to think of the consequences of your action, you fall headlong into it.
You're both seeking attention and escape. You're both seeking something you're not getting.
And rather than understanding that you are the only one who can change the fact you are not getting whatever it is you would love in your life.
You go down a different route and try and get it from someone else. However, if and when found out. You will firstly be plagued by guilt unless of course you're a complete narcist.
You will destroy your family and the lives of your partner and kids. You will completely destroy the other person's life, partner and their kids.
You will cause huge problems at work and will both probably lose your jobs. The point is that if we should first stop for a second and consider the consequences of our actions.
Secondly, we understand that we already have what we want in our life but we have the power to get more form what we already have.
We don't need to break it and run off expecting everything to be different with someone else.
Sometimes, people will not meet your half way and you may have no choice to leave but this can be in a controlled way and not a knee jerk and damaging way.
Remember, that when you are in a relationship that is not working. You cannot put your head in the sand and think it will get better one day. Or just sit there, powerless.
You were put on this planet to thrive, not just survive and be alive. If you don't take action, then the universe will step in and she can be heavy handed.
Things will progressively get worse for you until you take action or it is forced upon you. You must take responsibility or your own life and take the required action in order to thrive.
But be aware of what you are doing and how you are doing it and how it affects others around you.
